Holidays tend to bring out more emotions and feelings than we anticipate. I remember my first Thanksgiving as a separated, (almost divorced) single parent. I was sad, relieved and feeling uncertain about many things, all at the same time. My children were 2-years-old and 5-years-old. We spent it with my mother and other family members. For… Continue reading Enjoying Your Thanksgiving is Possible
Last week, I offered up my take on Demi Moore’s recent comments that she is proud of her divorce. I’ll add that I am really glad for her. I’m glad that she feels she survived her divorce and that she and Bruce Willis didn’t fight. Mostly, though, I am happy, that at least from her… Continue reading Does Divorce Ruin Children’s Lives?
When Demi Moore started talking recently about being proud of her divorce, it gave me pause. It’s not that I’m not glad she was able to have a good relationship with her ex or that they were able to be there together for their kids. I am. It is just that that is not the… Continue reading Demi Moore is “Proud” of Her Divorce. Here’s Why That Scares Me.
Every couple starts with a story. A tale of how they met, what they felt, why they drew near to one another. It describes moments like: Sharing that first cup of coffee The time he first brought her flowers That first time they went to a movie and forgot about the show The first time he… Continue reading Making Your Marriage Work: Part 2
Emotionally intelligent couples are intimately familiar with each other’s world. Each partner knows so much about the other: All the relevant information about their partner’s life Major events in their history How they feel about their boss, their coworkers and their friends How they feel about the world, religion and politics Their goals, hopes and… Continue reading Making Your Marriage Work
Had a great time speaking this past Wednesday at Hope and Healing Center about dealing with high conflict people in your family or workplace. Thank you to everyone who came! Hope and Healing Center has more events coming up, so feel free to check them out at https://hopeandhealingevents.org/events/
I know, I know. It’s hard. Life gives you stuff you are pretty sure is a giant mistake and you shouldn’t have to be dealing with it. But there it is anyway. When moments (days, weeks, months or years) like that happen, here are three ways to pick yourself up and move forward: Be grateful… Continue reading Don’t. Give. Up. (especially when you want to)
At the beginning of my First Grade year, I got into trouble. I was talking too much (imagine that?), and the teacher made me stand with my face in the corner. I had never gotten in trouble in school and was ashamed. Something about standing in the corner just makes you feel awful. I was afraid to tell… Continue reading I Got in Trouble. Didn’t You?
“It’s not fear that makes our lives narrow and small – it’s avoidance.” – Harriet Lerner In 2005, I attended a conference in South Carolina and had the privilege of hearing Harriet Lerner, author of multiple books including The Dance of Anger and Fear and Other Uninvited Guests. She told the story of a friend… Continue reading Stop Missing Out on Life to Avoid Discomfort
I focus on helping people through crisis and conflict. This summer, I did some training to learn how to specifically help individuals develop resiliency and process trauma that they are going through, especially when they don’t yet feel safe. You know, when we talk about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PSTD), it refers to something that… Continue reading Managing High-Stress, Ongoing Situations