One of the things that I see single parents and stepfamilies (and other families) do at the holiday times is stress about how much they can spend on the kids. Worse, they feel soooo bad about not having enough money to buy all the things their kids want. In order to prepare their kids to… Continue reading The Big DON’T of the Holiday Season
In November, I was privileged to speak during Day 1 of the Texas Counseling Association 63rd Annual Conference. The experience was great! I enjoyed speaking to a wonderful audience of counselors from all over the state during my session “Effectively Working with High Conflict Clients, Colleagues or Family Members.” One of the strategies I shared… Continue reading To Deal With Difficult People, Take This First Step
Holidays tend to bring out more emotions and feelings than we anticipate. I remember my first Thanksgiving as a separated, (almost divorced) single parent. I was sad, relieved and feeling uncertain about many things, all at the same time. My children were 2-years-old and 5-years-old. We spent it with my mother and other family members. For… Continue reading Enjoying Your Thanksgiving is Possible
Last week, I offered up my take on Demi Moore’s recent comments that she is proud of her divorce. I’ll add that I am really glad for her. I’m glad that she feels she survived her divorce and that she and Bruce Willis didn’t fight. Mostly, though, I am happy, that at least from her… Continue reading Does Divorce Ruin Children’s Lives?
When Demi Moore started talking recently about being proud of her divorce, it gave me pause. It’s not that I’m not glad she was able to have a good relationship with her ex or that they were able to be there together for their kids. I am. It is just that that is not the… Continue reading Demi Moore is “Proud” of Her Divorce. Here’s Why That Scares Me.
Had a great time speaking this past Wednesday at Hope and Healing Center about dealing with high conflict people in your family or workplace. Thank you to everyone who came! Hope and Healing Center has more events coming up, so feel free to check them out at https://hopeandhealingevents.org/events/ Please follow and like us:
I know, I know. It’s hard. Life gives you stuff you are pretty sure is a giant mistake and you shouldn’t have to be dealing with it. But there it is anyway. When moments (days, weeks, months or years) like that happen, here are three ways to pick yourself up and move forward: Be grateful… Continue reading Don’t. Give. Up. (especially when you want to)
“It’s not fear that makes our lives narrow and small – it’s avoidance.” – Harriet Lerner In 2005, I attended a conference in South Carolina and had the privilege of hearing Harriet Lerner, author of multiple books including The Dance of Anger and Fear and Other Uninvited Guests. She told the story of a friend… Continue reading Stop Missing Out on Life to Avoid Discomfort
I focus on helping people through crisis and conflict. This summer, I did some training to learn how to specifically help individuals develop resiliency and process trauma that they are going through, especially when they don’t yet feel safe. You know, when we talk about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PSTD), it refers to something that… Continue reading Managing High-Stress, Ongoing Situations
One of the hardest parts about co-parenting is when you want to co-parent but the other parent doesn’t. That is especially difficult when you are the parent with less time and less access. In my last post, I talked about the importance of reading your decree to ensure you understand your rights as a parent… Continue reading Know (and Protect) Your Rights When it Comes to Your Kids and School