Difficult Situations · Parenting · Single Parents

Don’t. Give. Up. (especially when you want to)

I know, I know. It’s hard. Life gives you stuff you are pretty sure is a giant mistake and you shouldn’t have to be dealing with it. But there it is anyway. When moments (days, weeks, months or years) like that happen, here are three ways to pick yourself up and move forward: Be grateful… Continue reading Don’t. Give. Up. (especially when you want to)

Difficult Situations · Exes · Single Parents · Stepfamilies

Stop Missing Out on Life to Avoid Discomfort

“It’s not fear that makes our lives narrow and small – it’s avoidance.” – Harriet Lerner In 2005, I attended a conference in South Carolina and had the privilege of hearing Harriet Lerner, author of multiple books including The Dance of Anger and Fear and Other Uninvited Guests. She told the story of a friend… Continue reading Stop Missing Out on Life to Avoid Discomfort

Difficult Situations

Managing High-Stress, Ongoing Situations

I focus on helping people through crisis and conflict. This summer, I did some training to learn how to specifically help individuals develop resiliency and process trauma that they are going through, especially when they don’t yet feel safe. You know, when we talk about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PSTD), it refers to something that… Continue reading Managing High-Stress, Ongoing Situations

Difficult Situations · Exes · Single Parents · Stepfamilies

Know (and Protect) Your Rights When it Comes to Your Kids and School

One of the hardest parts about co-parenting is when you want to co-parent but the other parent doesn’t. That is especially difficult when you are the parent with less time and less access. In my last post, I talked about the importance of reading your decree to ensure you understand your rights as a parent… Continue reading Know (and Protect) Your Rights When it Comes to Your Kids and School

Difficult Situations · Exes

Read Your Custody Agreement or Divorce Decree Right Now. Here’s Why.

Over the years, I have learned that it’s common for parents who break up to spend loads of time on a custody agreement, sign it, stick in a drawer, and, quite frankly, do their best to forget it. I understand that. I did it myself. It’s painful to reduce your life before the break up… Continue reading Read Your Custody Agreement or Divorce Decree Right Now. Here’s Why.

Difficult Situations · Exes · Stepfamilies

Do You Need Help Dealing With High Conflict People?

We all have people in our lives, whether they are family, neighbors, friends or coworkers who love a good argument (or an outright fight). If you need help communicating with a high conflict person, please join me Wednesday, September 18th at noon at the Hope and Healing Center. We’ll discuss strategies you can use to… Continue reading Do You Need Help Dealing With High Conflict People?